That Parent

Hey, Blog family! It’s been awhile! We’re almost back to our new normal school routine and I’m looking forward to adding some blogging time back into the schedule.  We have a 10th grader, 6th grader, 2nd grader, and a kindergartener! Tomorrow will be my first official day at home alone.

Over the summer, I had a conversation with a girlfriend about Cub 4 preparing to go to Kindergarten.  My biggest concerns were making sure that she would not have an allergic reaction to something she eats while in school, making sure she isn’t around any of her classmates who bring peanut-related items, and just the assurance that the school would take her allergies seriously.  So, my friend said, “[MB], you’re just going to have to be THAT parent.”  She knows me well and knew that I needed to face reality.  I didn’t want to be THAT parent!  I had had plenty of experiences with THAT parent while teaching, and I could not stand dealing with those parents!  I didn’t want Cub 4’s teacher to run and hide when she saw me walking down the hall.

I couldn’t be THAT parent.  So, instead of getting my list of suggestions ready for how to keep Cub 4 safe throughout the school year, I tucked the idea in the back of my head that I would just homeschool her if I didn’t feel comfortable leaving her at school.  Period.

Then, yesterday we had a meeting with her teacher, as well as the nurse, and WOW!

– All of the teachers and staff who will work with Cub 4 received a red folder containing all of her information.  I mean they were being passed out while we were there!

– A letter will be sent home to the parents of her classmates.

– The nurse will do a lesson on sharing with Cub 4’s class.

– PB and I can go on any field trips that could present a potential food-eating accident.

– Even her teacher, who normally eats energy bars with peanuts for her snack, has decided to switch her snack this year!

There’s even more accommodations in place for students like Cub 4 that include peanut-free tables at lunch and no food-related treats allowed on birthdays.  Did I mention that I love the principal at this school?!  The nurse and her aid have also been amazing!  No wonder my other cubs love going to the nurse’s office!

Well…I don’t think I have to homeschool Cub 4 after all, and I’m so glad that I don’t have to be THAT parent!  After I get my one good cry out tomorrow morning after dropping her off for her first full day of school, I’ll look forward to seeing her in the car riders lane with Cub 3 after school!

I’m standing on God’s promise (Genesis 28:15) to protect Cub 4 wherever she goes.



Last night, we forgot to let Kodi know that we planned to sleep in this morning.  Kodi is our 16 year old Shih Tzu who started barking bright and early this morning at 5:00am.  On any other day, someone is up and moving around the house that early, but I guess Kodi assumed that we had overslept.  I seemed to be the only one in the house who couldn’t sleep through her barking, so I was the lucky winner who had the privilege of taking her out this morning.  It has ended up being a pretty productive morning, so maybe I’ll give Kodi an extra treat before the day is done.

It’s a holiday weekend and Cub 2’s birthday weekend!  He will be turning 11 tomorrow!


Cub 2 is the reason we came up with a birthday rule in the Party of Six, that you cannot start talking about your birthday until it’s a month away.  He used to talk about what he wanted as a gift, where he wanted to eat, and what he wanted to do for his birthday, and then change his mind ten times or more before it actually arrived.  On April 24th, he started sharing his birthday plans with us and now it’s finally here.  All week, Cub 2 has been making “This is my last time ______ as a ten year old” statements.  The other night, it was “This is my last time having dinner on a Wednesday as a ten year old.”  During  dinner conversation last night, PB asked Cub 2 what his plans were for his future if the NBA doesn’t work out, and he said that he plans to join the Army.  I was fine with that until he started talking about what he wanted to do in the Army.  He wants to be on a special team or on special assignments…like top secret mission-type stuff.  Yes, the type of stuff that will send this Momma Bear’s anxiety level through the ceiling!  Both of my boy cubs thought it was amusing that I didn’t think I could handle either of them being in the military, but it didn’t really change their desire.  I resolved that they could take credit for drawing me closer to Jesus!  Really!

As my cubs get older and make more decisions on their own, I find my responses to their actions, questions, and decisions can be narrowed down to about four responses from me (either in my head or spoken aloud) – Okay, Wait, No, or Yes – and in between each thought there is time spent with Jesus. Here are a few examples:

Cub 1 wants to hang out at the park with some boys from his school?  No.  We need to know the parents and the kids.

Cubs 2 and 3 want to walk to and from school? Okay, if I feel like walking.  Alone? No.

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Cub 4 wants a play date with a friend? Okay!  Wait, without me? No. Well, let’s wait until you can read words like “peanuts” and “eggs” and “seeds” so that I don’t worry about you eating the wrong thing.

Cub 1 wants to practice driving since he’s getting a learner’s permit soon?  No.  Okay, wait. While you’re in the country with Grandma? Yes.

Cub 4 wants to go to Kindergarten? NOOOOOO!!  Okay, okay…yes, but MB is not happy about it!

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Do you see why it’s necessary for me to spend so much time with Jesus?  It’s to remind myself that God loves my cubs better and more than I ever will be able to love them.  He’s entrusted them to PB and me, but they belong to Him.

 And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.  Romans 8:28

Our responsibility is to teach them to love God.  That is a definite YES!

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Living for Him!

A Good Kind Of Busy

The cubs ran out of paper and pencils with just four more weeks of school left.  I thought for sure we would make it to the end of the year, but nope. Field trips seem to be happening on a weekly basis. And then there’s the last minute cub (Cub 2) with: Oh! This form is for a t-shirt and I need money today, so {I expect you to} drop everything and sign this form!” Then the form gets left on the kitchen island because that’s how important it really was after I dropped everything to sign it. We’ve had the spring drama production, the spring band concert, the spring recital, and we’re getting ready for field day.  There are ice cream parties and pizza parties to celebrate end of the year achievements coming up.  

We are too busy.  Too tired in the mornings to get up and get our family devotions done before Cub 1 leaves for school.  Too busy to sit down at the dinner table together for a real dinner.  Lately, there’s been a lot of quick microwaveable finger foods that can be tossed in a ziplock bag as we travel from place to place.  I’m a little sick of pizza and taquitos and pizza rolls and mac n cheese.  Too many loads of laundry that haven’t been touched.  We just dig through the dirty clothes to make a load based on what’s needed for the next day.  Too many discussions about how to get this cub here and that cub there.  Who will drive who?  How long will we be away?    I am an emotional eater, and I want nothing more than to finish off the container of butter pecan ice cream in the freezer to calm my nerves!  Unfortunately, as I type this blog post, I’m sitting in the ER with Cub 1 waiting for Saturday to turn into Sunday in about fifteen more minutes.  He’s going to be fine…just some breathing issues that he’s had for the past 3-4 days that we hadn’t noticed and he didn’t tell us about until he couldn’t breathe. (Read that last sentence with a little bit of sarcasm in your voice).  I think I can feel another gray hair growing right now.

Even still, I’m reminded that it’s just for a season.  Sometime (much) later in life, I’m going to miss these days.  

Now, it’s well past midnight.  Cub 1 is snoozing. Hopefully, we’ll be out of here soon.  We have another new busy day beginning in a few short hours!

Here’s a few pics that are on my phone from our recent busy days.

Cub 4 and friends releasing butterflies at the end of the Ready, Set, Learn school play group. 

Cub 4’s first dance recital.

Church school field trip with Cubs 3 and 4 to Watkins Park. 

 Our first prom send off event!  We were able to see these beautiful ladies from our church off to their senior proms.

Living for Him!